Find A Grave ( – Adding or Changing Information

In doing ancestry research, I always check to see  if my ancestor has a memorial set up on I have frequently found valuable information and obituaries on these memorials.

Find a Grave links to my parents:

Many people go through cemeteries and take pictures of grave stones and submit them to This is a wonderful service and I’ve found many of my ancestors memorials are already established.

However, in many cases the individual who so kindly took the picture and set up the memorial only knows the information that is on the tombstone and the location of the cemetery. So, many of these memorials need to be enhanced with additional information.

Here is my process for helping to improve my ancestors (FAG) memorials. Note: to make many of these changes, you will need to set up a FAG account, which is free and easy to do.

  • Go to (FAG) and search for the ancestor I’m researching to see if they already have a FAG memorial set up. (I check my ancestors page at to see if they have a FAG source listed and link from there, which is sometimes quicker than doing the search through
  • If no memorial for them is found, I add a burial record by clicking on the “Add Burial Records” link on the left navigation bar.
  • Verify and improve Names (like adding maiden names and nicknames). If there is information missing and someone else maintains the record, you can do one of two things:
    1. You can request the memorial be turned over to you to maintain by providing your relationship to the person and your FAG number. (You can do this by clicking on the name of the person that maintains the memorial and will see their contact information (email address). If no contact information is available, you can submit the request using the “edit” tab at the top of the page and use the “Suggest any other correction or addition” link to request the transfer to you. Once it’s transferred to you, you can make these changes through the individuals Memorial Page as long as you’re logged in.
    2. OR You can use the “Edit” tab at the top of the page to submit your changes to the person who maintains the memorial.
  • Connecting Family Members. allows you to add parents and spouse. First you need to find or add the parents and/or spouses to obtain their FAG Memorial Number. Then go back to the memorial of the child and/or spouse and click on the “Edit” tab at the top of their FAG memorial page, then click on the “Relationship (parent and spouse links)” link. You can then add the FAG Memorial Number for the Father, Mother and/or Spouse and Year married. You can also add more spouses. This will then be sent to the person maintaining that memorial for approval. My experience has been they are added fairly quickly in most cases.
  • Adding a biography. I highly encourage you to add a “story” about the person if there is not one and you have enough information to do so. Submitting an obituary is also a good idea if you have one. This, in my opinion, makes the person more real when you can read a story about them. To add a biography, I click on the ‘Edit” tab at the top of the page and use the “Suggest a correction or addition” link. If you maintain the memorial, there will be a link on the memorial page to add and/or edit Bio.
  • Uploading photos. If I have a picture of the person or their grave stone, I will upload it to the memorial. It’s always nice to see a picture of the person. Keep in mind, that although these pictures are marked as copyrighted by yourself, some folks believe they can take the picture and use it without permission, so don’t upload any pictures you don’t want copied (this is the www after all). Also, you can further protect it by making sure the Meta data on the photo shows you as the copyright owner.
  • Add Flowers. Adding flowers is easy peasy….just click on the “Leave Flowers and a note” box at the bottom right of the memorial page. A list of flowers to select from will show up.  You can also edit the default selection of flowers by clicking on the “Contributor Tools” link in the left toolbar. On your Contributor page, on the bottom left is a section called Customize. You can edit the Default Flower Category. 


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17 thoughts on “Find A Grave ( – Adding or Changing Information”

  1. Could you please tell me how to submit a name when death date or burial place is unknown? I would like to link that person to a spouse in order to add children to them. I tried to add just the name and link to a spouse but find-a-grave keeps asking for place of burial. There is an “other” option but that is for those cremated and other non-burials. Another option shows a burial not known but that is for recent burials and will only stay that way for 30 days. Then you have to provide a burial place. Thank you for any help you can give me.

    1. Hi Beverly,

      Yes, Findagrave requires you to know the burial information on a person. I have read that they will remove any with unknown cemetery or burial information after 30 days.

      I believe you can note unknown on a death date (I actually have a living relative on there that someone posted. They have a joint headstone with another person, so there is a gravesite location, but no death date yet, which is acceptable to findagrave. However, they will remove living persons upon request).

      At this time, I am not aware of a work around for this. Would like to hear additional feedback, though.

  2. Karen Raye Kelton

    Maybe Findagrave says they will delete the memorials with and unknown burial place. However, Findagrave manages MANY memorials and it does not do this on the ones they manage.

    1. Hi Bren,
      There should be an edit button in the gray section under the Memorial ID. (Share / Shave To / Edit) Click on the Edit drop down and select Edit Memorial.

      Once in the edit screen there is a section for Family Members. You will want to add the same Mother and Father (using their Memorial ID). If you don’t see the ability to add Parents, you can click on the Old version of Find a grave (which will be retired soon).

      Hope this helps.

  3. I maintain the memorial pages for my Grandparents. Could you tell me how you add children to the Parents page? When I hit “Edit” it only allows me to edit/add the Spouse or parent info. I am trying to add my father and his siblings to my grandparents pages.

  4. I recently added a custon flower (actually my own digital artwork) to Sadako Sasaki’s site on Find-a-Grave but could not find any way to enter a note (text). The picture shows up on the site but I could not see any kind of text input. How do I add text once the image is uploaded?

  5. Lee (LeRoy Jameson

    Hello .. This is great — finding your page and your comments about Find A Grave. I was unsure if it was okay to post photos and death notices. Thank you.

    Perhaps you can help me with a little problem. I posted the same picture twice on a cemetery page (as opposed to a memorial page) and do not know how to remove it. I can’t seem to find an ‘edit’ button other than the pencil icon for suggested edits.

    Hope you can help and thank you very much.


  6. Hello…. Some children on my old FAG memorials was dropped on the new FAG. How do I add them back in? Very frustrating.

    1. Hi Jerry, according to their FAQ page here is what they say: “The site does not encourage adding memorials for individuals who are still living. However, when transcribing a cemetery, it is not always possible to determine if the person is living or not. You are welcome to create a ‘pre-need’ memorial for yourself provided that you have a pre-need headstone already in place in a cemetery. Memorials for living people will be removed when a family member contacts the manager with proof or knowledge that the individual is still alive (the exception being for ‘famous’ individuals who already have a burial location in place).” Hope this helps. I found their FAQ page at: .

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